Sometimes peer pressure causes teenagers to do things that they never would have done before, knowing right from wrong. #1 he should be punished so that he knows that there are consequences for doing things wrong. #2 he should have to work to pay for damage to the car, #3 he shows remorse for what he has done which means that he knows that he did something wrong, so you must be doing something right. The way it sounds is both mom and dad have a big influence on them they just try with mom alittle harder.What would you do if your unlicensed teenage son took your car for a drive?
warn him that police will arrest him. Dont let him drive like that.
nope i got my license as soon as i could and my mom let me drive without my license but i wouldnt keep the extra key around the house any more
I would make your son pay for the damage that he has caused to both your car and the parked car. Don't talk to the insurance agency since they will just jack your rates up...make him save up money to pay for the full price of the repairs. That will teach him to not drive cars that aren't his.
I'd tell him about the young mexican born lad who lived in Great Yarmouth, Norfolk England, who did precisely that a few weeks ago. He thought he could drive too, he thought he'd get away with it too. Because of his lack of experience he misjudged his speed for the road. He didn't just dent the car by hitting a fire hydrant. He flipped the car and landed on a concrete shed. He didn't survive the crash.
Make sure you son knows how disappointed you are and thank your lucky stars it was only the car that was damaged.
I can't say that I have but what I would do if I were you is make him work to pay for the damage. I would also but him on punishment until he pays it off. Hopefully the owner of the other car allows him to do this and will not sue you or your insurance company for the damages.
Well I had a friend whose daughter did this, it got dented, but she didn't tell them for a couple months how it happened. They did nothing.
My personal feeling is that he should be grounded, and he should do extra jobs around the house and at the family business until he pays off what he owes. When he pays off the damages, he is done being grounded (except for the prom and stuff like that because every kid needs to go to that if they want to.)
no don't have that problem but a good friend friend of mine just lost her 10 year old nephew because he stole the keys to her cousin's truck and got into a wreck and got killed. so he's lucky that he didn't do worse damage than he did. you need to talk to him about what the consequences of such childish actions can be. it can be deadly and get you into trouble for leaving the spare key lying around where he can get to it. i know you love him, but tell him that if that happens again you will turn him in to the police or he can find somewhere else to live -even if you aren't serious, because he needs to grow up and learn responsibility, he could've gotten killed or killed someone else with his irresponsible driving skills. hide your spare key and don't tell him where it is. good luck and talk to your son
notify the traffic police in yoour place at once.
call the cops let him go to jail. If he committed the crime then let him do the time. Auto theft and driving without a license. He needs to learn to accept responsibility for his actions. Let him sit in jail for a few days.
I really think the driving age needs to be raised to 21 anyway!
he needs to pay for what he did. hand him the bills for all repairs. he isnt ready to be driving. not only did he break the law he lost the trust u had with him. i have a daughter 16 and she does drive. has her own car but she ask me still if and when she can go.
Both you and his father should sit him down and calmly discuss what happened. (all must keep their cool) Why did he take the car? was it that big of an emergency? Ask him all kinds of questions like that then ask him what would have happened had he hit someone or killed them. He committed a crime - theft (even if it is mom %26amp; dad's car) is theft.
Maybe he's crying out for attention, again in this ';chat'; talk it out with him. Kicking him out or ';breaking his legs'; will not solve the problem that will only make it worse.
Make sure all spare sets of keys are in a spot where he'd never go (just in case...) and 'threaten' to keep him from driving until he's older... and lastly make him pay for the damage.
If he's never done this before then the key question is why did he do it?
ground your son for a month or put him to a boy's town
I had a similar situation back a few years back with my 13 year old nephew. We were home in bed at 3am my nephew and son took my car on a joy ride through our community. It was a deputy sheriff friend of mine who was working the night shift and caught them driving my car, he pulled them over and called me, I told him take both boys to jail and I would get someone to bring me to get my car. I left both boys in jail for 24 hours. I got my car and went back home and back to bed. The next day I went down to the jail and tore both their butts up one was 13 one was 11. After a night in jail and a sore butt it never happened again.
Well, tell him he has to pay for the damages to your car. And then if he does it again take away all his privilages for a week. EVERYTHING!! Including internet, phone and anywhere after school besides home and the family business...
I was like that! untill my mom kicked my ***! I would do the same to my son! So woop his butt!!!
Your husband is just upset - let him vent. In the future, do NOT leave car keys out where your son can get to them again.
Was he scared and shaken up about what happened?? If so then I'm sure he is sorry for what he did. If he has never done this before then I wouldn't think he is heading down the wrong path in life of getting into any other trouble (but you never know). I would have called the cops on him though to teach him a lesson. There are so many offenses he just committed and he could have seriously hurt someone and himself. He can't get away with this and not be punished. I would find a community service group and sign him up for it and make him work to pay for damages done (even if your insurance covers the damage). Tough love is the only way to get through to a teen and in this case he needs just that. Good luck.
the poor boy must be feeling misarable insidehim,sio donot do anything .
Lighten up! Not that your son needs to know. He's just taken another step toward independence that really didn't work out. Stick to your guns on the eighteen thing if that's important, make him work off damage costs in his work hours in your business, and send the kid to driving school. He's obviously interested in it, and thought, until now, that it seemed pretty easy. It doesn't seem like a great message to him that the rest of the world is competent to drive at sixteen, but his parents have determined that he's ';excitable and hyper.'; The one in this drama who could use a little discipline is dad. Ranting and leg breaking are a little over the top, and I'll just bet old dad has a few mistakes back in the fog of his past, too.
simple enough, id sue the idiot doctor who was supposed to have fixed me. i hate kids. NEVER have one!
ANYway, when i was one myself, mom would ground me from things. no friends or no star trek (THAT was a real killer. im a trekkie btw...i actually preferred it when mom said no friends %26amp; i think she picked up on that *eyeroll* lol friends i could do without but star trek? AH! lol) or something gone from anywhere to a week or a month.
what does your kid like most? take it form him for a while.
(oh %26amp; i'd let the dad break his legs....just to be mean...lol j/k...sorta...)
also, if he had no license, he was doing a crime, especially if he damaged another car. send him to jail over the weekend. he'll learn. they'll keep him in a holding cell overnight or something. doesn't have to be a real jail. just a taste of whats to come if he F's up again.
break his legs so he cant drive anymore. thats what i did to my son before ';the accident';. BUT REMEMBER its only illegal if you get caught..seriously...
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