Has anyone lost their father in the teenage years? How did you deal with it?

The 14yr old boy I am trying to help lost his father a few mths ago. He was kinda in trouble before and has always ran around. Now it is really bad, his mother is letting him run around still (see more of my quest to see more info) He is kicked out of school for the year, he is hanging around some bad kids cuz everyone else is in school, he is quitting baseball which he is lke the best in the county, has loves all sports, he is doing other BAD stuff. He has a great heart and really deep down is a good person. I just don't know what to say besides that I will be there for him and love him like my own. Is there anything I can do to help him see the light?


I just hate to see him waste his life because he can't get himself back together. I WANT TO HELP HIM get through this tough time, but I don't think I am doing much good. I talked him into playing one more bball game but he was supposed to play toinght and wasn't there.Has anyone lost their father in the teenage years? How did you deal with it?
I have lost a father but not in my teens rather my adult life.. I'm still dealing with it, it ain't always easy there're highs %26amp; lows sometimes it pains me when I see other father-daughters, it triggers something within me - a memory and tears come streaming down..


I wish there's a manual for sale that's able to help those who are in deep pain mourning the loss of a loved one but it's just wishful thinking. Firstly, let me say that what you're doin' for this kid is admirable. I'm sure that deep down he's touched by your concern so don't be hard on yourself.


These things take time. Time will heal his sorrow for the moment he's rebelling because different people cope with loss differently.. don't give up on him assure him that he's not alone. Mostly just let him have his space to grieve properly, pray %26amp; be patient.Has anyone lost their father in the teenage years? How did you deal with it?
Its very hard to undo damage already done, and It sounds as If he had problems before his father died.There are long term in house treatment homes, but hard to adhere to unless the person really decides for themself that they need help.He Is going through a number of things, and maybe if he does not realize he needs the help, It may only happen, when he gets into trouble, then the courts may decide to enter him into treatment. Keep doing what you are doing, he needs boundries, and the fact that last time he was grounded at 7 yrs, seems to indicate he needs more of that, Tough love, good love, and praise, maybe some ';god';!!!!!
This an issue for his mom - (if you are his age), it's admirable for you to be concern - just know your own limitations. See if your parents can help the mom/son get into some counseling/family therapy - Also have them to see about hooking the teen up with a Big Brother program or something close to that. Make this a team effort - that way you don't become overstressed
wut i think he needs a LOT of love to replace the love of his father and the support, i think u could help... i just wish i could help too...
i think that it is great that your helping this child,and im sure you are doing some good,have you tried to talk to mom about getting him into counseling,you being there for him is showing him he is loved,i lost my mom at a young age and rebeled my teen years cause i was so angry that i lost her,i didnt have someone like you to be there,so that can make a difference,i would stay close for him and maybe look at the big picture,why is mom letting him run wild and i find it a little strange that he can stay away from home for months at a time..i have 4 children and married with 4 more children..my therey is whats one more..if you care that much and you can make a differencetake the next step...good luck